🎙️ EPISODE 110 — If You’re a Husband, Listen Up: Navigating the Emotional Labor of the Holidays

🎙️ EPISODE 110 — If You’re a Husband, Listen Up: Navigating the Emotional Labor of the Holidays

The holidays are officially here… which means I’m out here juggling 12,000 invisible tasks, three potential meltdowns (usually my own), and the emotional blueprint of the entire family — while the husbands of the world are like: “What time do we leave again?” 😅

This week’s episode of Chaotic Compass is my friendly-but-not-really PSA for husbands, partners, and the men who desperately need a gentle (or not-so-gentle) nudge to step the hell up this season.

So grab a drink 🍹, take a breath 😮‍💨, and let’s break down the reality of holiday emotional labor — loud, honest, and absolutely sprinkled with F-bombs. 💥

✨ Inside This Episode

🎄 Why the holidays send ME (and women everywhere) into full-on mental load overload

🧠 The “invisible work” I carry during this season: planning, remembering, anticipating, preventing chaos before it explodes

🚫 The wrong kind of help I see men give (garage organizing, attic leaf-blowing, random ADHD side quests)

😑 Why the phrase “Just tell me what to do” makes me want to throat-punch someone

💸 The financial pressure + NASA-level gift-planning I somehow become responsible for every December

😵‍💫 Rage-baiting kids, holiday mom-guilt, judgmental relatives, and why potatoes made with 2% milk are JUST FINE

🍒 My newest cider obsession: Cherry Treasure from Sly Clyde — fruity-pebble-in-a-cup bliss

👀 The red flags husbands miss: the “I’m fine” lie, the meltdown simmer, the “don’t ask me one more question” energy

💆‍♀️ And what I (and most women) ACTUALLY need from partners during the holidays: initiative, consistency, ownership, appreciation

This episode is raw, hilarious, wildly relatable, and probably uncomfortably accurate. And honestly? If you're a husband and you’re mad… it’s probably because it’s true. 😉

💡 Husbands, Partners, Ryan… Listen Up

If you want to change the entire vibe of your December, here’s what works 👇

🧹 If you see it, do it.
🔄 Consistency > panic-cleaning on Christmas Eve.
📝 Own your task fully. Not halfway. Not “oops I forgot.”
💬 Show appreciation. Tell her you see how much she does.
💆‍♀️ Buy her the damn massage.
(And no — not your version of a massage. I mean a gift card + you taking the kids.)

🧡 Real Talk: What I Need After the Holiday Storm

✨ A nap
✨ A margarita
✨ A quiet drive alone
✨ A clean floor
✨ And ONE DAY — just ONE — where no one asks me where the batteries are 😭

📣 Share the Chaos

If this episode made you feel seen, called out, validated, or just cracked you up… share it. Seriously, send it to:

💌 Your husband
👯‍♀️ Your sister
🫶 Your bestie
🙃 Every overwhelmed mom you know

Your shares and reviews help Chaotic Compass grow — and help keep my cider fund stocked. 🍒✨

🧭 Stay Real, Stay Chaotic

Thanks for tuning in, babes.
Until next time: stay real, stay chaotic, and keep a drink close. 🥂